Do you have a mama’s boy husband who puts his mother on a godlike and sainthood pedestal? He can’t ever “see” anything she does wrong? How does this make you feel? Is it beyond frustrating? 

Tip #1 Understand that Husband suffers from “Mommy Issues Syndrome”

This is very important for your own sanity to remember that this type of husband suffers from a condition called “mommy issues syndrome”.

He cannot control his instinctive reflex to protect his mama at all costs even at your expense. 

Your husband acts like his mother is perfect even though she demonstrates obvious character flaws (like every human being has!). 

Your dear husband will never acknowledge them ESPECIALLY the ones that directly impact you and your marriage.  Even when you kindly point out very obvious examples and how it negatively affects you (and causes you distress!). 

His response is always with blinders on. He will not give an inch on anything relating to his mother. 

Note also how easily your husband can point out flaws in other people including your own family/mother.

But anything to do with his dear mother, he has those blinders on and is very defensive. Instead he will try to make you feel like the bat crazy one.

Remember wives, it is a syndrome that sadly your husband has. Do not let him gaslight you to not believe yourself!

Tip # 2 Try to turn your understandable Frustration into Sympathy

Feel bad for him (and his mother). He needs her approval and is so afraid of being disloyal. He must protect his mother and her ego at all times!

The problem is this is counterproductive. If all your husband wants is for you to have good relations with his mother, then showing awareness that his mother is human and has flaws is the first step. Then the next step is admitting that he “sees” her behavior that has a negative impact on you and your marriage.

Feel bad that he cannot dare acknowledge it. Because if dear husband could validate you and your feelings, this would greatly help ease the frustration.

Tip #3 Read Funny Mother-in-law Quotes and Jokes

Enjoy a good laugh. There are many jokes, one-liners, or quotes that really nail how challenging a mother-in-law can be. Even if your husband would rather keep his head buried in the sand, these quotes were written and exist for a reason because many mothers-in-law are not saints!! 🙂

Tip #4 Stop Engaging and Practice Acceptance

Stop trying to get your husband to see your perspective on his mother. It is unlikely he will ever be able to.

For things to change, he will need to proactively get professional counseling to fully examine and work on his ingrained “mommy issues syndrome”.

So try your best to accept this character flaw of your husband and focus your energy on what he does right!