If you are a wife who struggles with a “mama’s boy” husband, you will want to know the answer to this question …

Has dear husband owned up to the fact he is a mama’s boy?

First …  has dear husband acknowledged that he is indeed a “mama’s boy”?

The first step is he needs to be honest with himself and admit yep I have “mommy issues”. It has become detrimental to my married life and I need to do something about it.

Some men will be in denial, but if his wife is telling him he is a mama’s boy, he should listen to her woman perspective as she is the one who sees firsthand what is going on.. 

You cannot fix an issue if there is no admission that there is one. This is a critical first step!!

The older the mama’s boy the harder it may be to change

Second, how old is dear husband?

This is important as the older the man the more ingrained the dynamic and the harder to change. But if the first very important step of “acknowledgment” is done, he is a step in the right direction..woo-hoo!

Is dear husband willing and committed to do the hard work?

Third, changing a parent relationship dynamic will be hard work. It will take a strong commitment from your husband that he must “want” to do.  

7 Questions for a mama’s boy to answer

✔ Is your husband willing to start having direct, honest, truthful, and productive conversations with his mother even if it is really hard for him to do this?  

✔ Is he able to tell his mother no? (and stop feeling guilty and tortured about it when he does)

✔ Is he able to assert himself and not let his mother dominate him like he is a young schoolboy instead of a grown man?

✔ Can he stop putting his mother’s wants, needs, or expectations above the needs of his wife/marriage/adult life?

✔ Can he stop feeling the guilt that he is responsible for his mother’s happiness and emotional needs (and start to call out any emotional manipulation, passive aggressive behaviors, and parental guilt trips that are used on him to get her way)?

✔ Can he acknowledge how he easily gets a tone or angry at his wife, but being angry at his mother (when warranted) is ALWAYS off limits and would never dare give her a ‘tone’?

✔ Can he start finally treating his wife as his number one leading lady and stop reserving the royal treatment he is clearly capable of only for his mother?

If he cannot do the above, its likely those “ironclad” apron strings won’t be cut anytime soon..

It is up to him to finally man up and want to take these steps even if he’d rather literally hang himself than stand up to his mother…

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